Tom Can Cook
We recently enjoyed a dinner out with friends at a nearby restaurant called Tom Can Cook. Of course many top chefs are men, but the restaurant's name is a nice ESP reminder that men are perfectly capable of domestic duties - cooking, cleaning, grocery shopping or buying gifts.
This article in a San Antonio newspaper this week entitled 'Yes, Men Can Cook and Clean' speaks to the issue nicely. Several experts weigh in, including our mentor Francine Deutsch, to describe how stereotypical gender roles in the home are breaking down at a considerable rate. It also touches upon the question of whether ESP marriages make for happier partners than traditional marriages. Marital happiness data are hard to collect, say researchers, but anger levels tend to be higher in traditional marriages and especially high in marriages where women work but also do the majority of the housework.
The article ends by describing the ideal of equally shared housework: "[Evergreen State College marriage/family expert Stephanie] Coontz says young people raised in families where the labor is divided equally increasingly identify that arrangement as the ideal family format. Deutsch says couples come to such a balance in many different ways - there's not just one path to equality."
How nice to think that our kids will idealize an ESP household when they grow up. And yes - ESP happens in many, many different ways; for proof, just meet some of the couples in our Real Life Stories.