It Ain't So Bad
Like a worn-out kindergartner after her first 3 weeks of 'real school', parent bloggers out there seem to be in whining mode these days. The theme is 'look how much I do', 'balance is a lost cause', or 'I never have a moment to even breathe'. Woe is me. Whole blogs are devoted to the maddening lives of parents - mostly mothers - and it starts to feel like a shtick that some of us are proud of. Very few of us are out pitching a happier story. From Working Dad to BusinessWeek, even some of my favorite work/parenting writers are on the topic today.
Sure, chaos is the order of the day (pun intended) sometimes. We all have crazy-busy days and unexpected messes to wade through in raising young children. Sometimes, we truly don't have enough time for ourselves and we just try to get through each hour without losing it. It is fun to talk about these days, and it makes for great conversation to bond with others over these experiences. But chaos should rule the minority of our days. If it doesn't, I consider this a red flag.
Parenting should not be a sentence of misery. Simply making peace with the chaos, as many recommend, is not the only answer. While equally shared parenting won't solve everything, it can bring about the 'good enough' balance that makes the typical day entirely manageable. The difference is that with ESP you have a fully engaged partner with whom to share the load. Not just a helper or an extra set of hands. A partner who can handle everything you can, and does half the work.
Half the work - all the fun! That's our motto. And we're sticking to it.